Novelist Mona Simpson's
touching eulogy for her brother, which was delivered as part of a memorial service at Stanford University:
He tried. He always, always tried, and always with love at the core of that effort. He was an intensely emotional man. I realized during that terrifying time that Steve was not enduring the pain for himself. He set destinations: his son Reed’s graduation from high school, his daughter Erin’s trip to Kyoto, the launching of a boat he was building on which he planned to take his family around the world and where he hoped he and Laurene would someday retire.
I encourage you to read the whole thing, and pay particular attention to the end.